My Marriage feels abusive. Is it? or am I too sensitive?

yes it is abuse. Divorce him. you deserve better. he is not happy with himself so he is going to out you down to make himself fell better. Hun i been there with my sons dad.. I am now married to a wonderful man who supports me . you deserve someone who loves and respects you and who will support you.. Get a lawyer and file for a divorce make him pack up and leave